The Dynamics Of A Successful Threesome

Threesomes really ain’t hard. But I have repeatedly heard of that one failed threesome story where, the experience left such a bad taste in the couple’s mouth, they never engaged in another threesome again. It always surprises me when this happens because I think there are a few no-brainers when it comes to engaging physically with three people.

Firstly, the person who initiated the threesome is not necessarily the one in charge. This is important to note because many times, a threesome is encouraged or even pushed on by a male spouse in order to live out his sexual fantasy. The person in charge however, should be the individual who is both comfortable and excited about taking responsibility for the two other people in the room. This is not just someone excited to have sex with both individuals. This is also someone who knows how to read a room very well. The person in charge should be someone who can empathize with the energy in the space and someone who is not afraid to dictate what happens in the bedroom, so that everyone is having a good time. The best title for the one in charge is a vibe regulator. Without this skill, the leader may run the risk of fostering feelings of discomfort and self consciousness. And ain’t nobody got time for that.

In addition, if the threesome is a two woman and one man situation, all of the effort and emphasis should be channeled towards the women. Furthermore, if it is a couple who initiated the threesome, most of the attention in the room should be given to the woman who is visiting the union or the one who was explicitly asked to be there. I say this for two reasons. One, if the woman visiting feels like she is the third wheel in the bedroom, there is no point in having a threesome. Obviously, this will reveal the fact that, as a couple, you two are strong, you two are passionate, and you two clearly need no one else. There are emotions, feelings, and interests that need juggling whenever in a threesome. Some may say, the feelings, interests, and emotions of the women are some of the most important. Which leads to my second point. Generally speaking, women are sensitive. The last thing a woman may want is to feel like her man is taking a bit more interest in the visitor without her approval or consent. Thus, encouraging the women to engage with each other, although it may leave the guy out for just a little bit, will allow him to have his cake and eat it too, in the end.

Finally, the women involved in the threesome must like women! I see no point in having a threesome that involves two women if they are sexually disgusted with one another. This runs the risk of the issues mentioned earlier. You cannot guarantee the success of a threesome, if you cannot guarantee that the women will be satisfied with one another. This puts most of the responsibility on the man in the mix, who will need to make sure both women feel attended to and important. This is not an impossible task, yet it becomes more difficult depending on the dynamics of the women involved. If the women are not into one another, its a lot harder to regulate whether they are having a good time or not because your check ins will become individual. Instead of observing both women, engaging with one another, you’ll have to continuously make sure they are having fun, apart.

Within my examples, there are personalities and situations that I did not account for. Not every threesome involves two women and one man, not every threesome is initiated by the man involved, and not every threesome is emotionally driven. For the ones that may fall under my description however, I hope to have shed some positive light and successful tips. Threesomes are some of the most fun and exciting group sex experiences and I want everyone to feel just as stoked about them. Especially if that means they’ll be having them a lot more! 

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