How to Spice Up Our Sex Lives

When you are in a relationship for long enough, things tend to become old hat when you let them. This is not excluding sex. Sex after awhile might become repetitious and boring. You might even feel that it is becoming a sort of chore. This is something that isn’t only bad for you, but it is bad for the relationship. Research shows that sexual dissatisfaction is one of the leading causes of relationships falling apart. This is because of sexual dissatisfaction goes beyond the mere absence of physical pleasure. When sexual dissatisfaction enters a relationship, one or more partners will inevitably feel lonely and emotionally distanced from their partner[s]. In turn, paying more attention to your sex life to resolve such dissatisfaction is important for the maintenance of your relationship.

Libido or Sexual Function Issues? Take Maca Root

Sometimes the issue is simply that your partner or yourself has a low libido or sexual dysfunction. Maybe, in theory, you’d like to be having [more] sex, but you simply do not have the sexual drive to do so. Maca is a plant that has been used for thousands of years for issues surrounding sexual health. Research shows that it can improve sexual functionality in both men and women and it can help improve libido in both men and women. These effects can be seen by taking 2-3 grams of maca root powder each day. And for the purposes of improving libido, there isn’t any difference in effect. Simply ensure that before taking maca that you check with a doctor to see if you have any allergies or medical conditions that might make it unfeasible for you to supplement with it.

Understand your partner’s kinks

Kinks are something we all have. However, it’s very often the case that we are embarrassed to express them. Instead, we ought to embrace them! Talk to your partner about your kinks and ask them about theirs. It is highly likely that they’ve been dying for you to ask and are now super excited that they can express themselves more fully in the bedroom. This will surely light a spark in the bedroom that didn’t exist before.

Have sex somewhere else

You probably only have sex in the bedroom. This might be contributing to the feeling of repetition. Having sex in other rooms in your house or even getting a hotel will surely spice things up.

Play music

Sometimes sex in total silence can get a bit awkward. There are countless sex-oriented playlists online that you could use to lessen the awkwardness and even enhance the mood in the room.


Building tension is part of how sex, well… goes well. Sexting throughout the day can build lots of tension and can make the sparks fly in the bedroom.

*For the ladies* do oral

Women have a harder time orgasming from regular sex (i.e. vaginal penetration). In fact, 70%-80% of women require clitoral stimulation in order to achieve an orgasm. So if your partner is a woman, you will be doing your woman justice by going down on her. It might be that you haven’t been giving her oral, and as a result, she rarely orgasms. Regular orgasms will surely spice things up in the bedroom.

Use toys

Using toys can be a good way to add the element of surprise into the bedroom. In particular, buy a toy to use on your partner and pull it out as a surprise when things get hot and heavy.

Bring in more partners

For some, the desire to have group sex is huge but is often seen as taboo. Talk to your partner about the idea of bringing in more partners into the bedroom.

Try new positions

Are you used to the same old positions? This gets really boring after a while. How many times can you really do missionary only before you get fed up? Trying new positions is a great way to spice things up in the bedroom.

Role Play

Role-playing is an interesting and fun way to change things up. Maybe you have old Halloween costumes lying around? Use those! If not, go buy some!

Switch Intensities

It might be the case that you are used to having soft sex. This is all well and good, but you don’t want to only have soft sex. There’s nothing wrong with doing it rough every now and then. Try it out!

Switch who initiates

Quite often, in a relationship, the person who sexually initiates is always the same. This shouldn’t be the case. If you find that you rarely or never initiate, initiate for once! It’ll make your partner feel loved and special.

As you can see there are a great number of options to choose from when it comes to spicing things up in the bedroom. It’s simply a matter of you and your partner putting in the effort to improve things by actually putting these thoughts into practice.

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